This is one of our member’s thoughts after being given a first assignment by her potential Dom (one of our clients).
The assignment was to write “what sor t of rituals she envisioned in her daily life with her Dom:”
I recommend you read her thoughts and draft your own thoughts for your potential Dom (even if you haven’t met Him yet, you can still keep a record of your self-examination/assignments)…
Her ramblings:
“I spent a lot of time today thinking about this assignment. What sort of rituals do I envision for our daily life. It seems like such a simple question but it isn’t. I think you and I both agree that a strong vanilla relationship and connection is important along with the dynamic we crave. However, I think it is also very important to acknowledge that this dynamic is who we are, what we have chosen, on a daily basis.
I haven’t listed anything strictly sexual. I did this because, well let’s face it – variety is the spice of life. My body is yours to do with as you please – as I know you will. I will be thrilled to drop to my knees and suck your cock at a moment’s notice. However, I found myself focusing on the way that I would serve you that blend in with our more vanilla lives - the ways to serve you other than sexually.
On days that you have to get up and be somewhere, I would think that it is my responsibility to get up and make your breakfast before you wake up. I would like to cook this meal naked (unless there is splattering…haha) so that I start my day off with a reminder that I am your whore and my place is to serve you. I would like to eat this meal with you while I remain naked, to put me deeper into the submissive mindset that I should have throughout the day in the back of my mind. Naked, exposed and owned.
In the morning, I would also like to have a ritual of preparing my body for you and looking good for the day. Bathing, making sure my pussy and legs are shaved, putting make-up on, fixing my hair how you like it, dressing in a way you would find sexy. Taking the time to make sure that my body is pristine for you to enjoy and that I always look my best for you. There is something very erotic about the act of preparing my body for you.
One of the rituals I think would be important would be for me to have a journal or diary. Writing helps me focus my thoughts and analyze them more clearly to myself. I would like to have a place to write all of my joys, frustrations, thoughts, pleasures and fears. A journal that I could write in with complete freedom, without fear of judgment or punishment. I think there should be an entry every day – be it four lines or four pages. I would like to be required to write in this journal naked – feeling exposed to you as my mind should be. I believe this would be something that we could read together, discuss and improve our communication – sometimes it is easy to communicate through writing.
When we meet up at the end of the day at home, I think another good ritual would be for me to completely undress and get down in the position you have had me get into. I love that position, it makes me feel very submissive, very exposed. I would like to get into that position at your feet while you examine my body to ensure that I have prepared myself the way you desire - a very humbling experience to remind me of my place. Then I’m sure you would either use me for your pleasure or tell me to continue with what I had been doing.
Of course, I know I would also have the responsibility of keeping the house the way that you expect it, cooking your meals and preparing your clothes for the day. I am thrilled to do these things because I want to please you in every aspect of our lives. I envision a 1950s dynamic with a lot of kinky twists thrown in…haha.
I’m sure that you will add to, modify or entirely change the above list. I do not have experience living day in and day out with my dominant and therefore the rituals that could and should be involved are mind-blowing to comprehend. The things above are just examples of the ways that I would be thrilled to serve you every day.”
These are her musings…now get to work on yours…
